Michele I am sitting here with my mouth "WIDE OPEN". I have read MANY sitch's on this board for the past 8 months or so but YOURS is almost IDENTICAL to mine, right down to the age of us and the years we were married. I can not believe it. My xh, yes we divorced, said almost the EXACT same things. In my threads I know I forgot some things and reading your thread brings them back to mind.
"we needed to stop being in denial " XH said the same thing. He also said he was tired of leading me on.
"H wants to leave everything else with me and he said he simply doesn't care what happens to it" XH said this also. He basically only took his clothes, said he could care less what I did with his stuff he left.
"He also says he is so tormented he wishes he had the ability to end his life." My xh told me he had thought about suicide. He cried while telling me this.
"a vasectomy consult" Yep mine did this too. Scheduled the appt. but I dont think he ever went. Was determined to get one. He had been talking about this for about a year. (probably when he started going out on me)
I dont know if your h did this, but mine started working out like crazy and and laying in the tanning bed. Wanted to get tanned to show off his muscles. He has also said, "We can always get remarried". He said this early on in the sitch.
Michele, it has been over 8 months for me, more like 9 I guess. We have been divorced for 6 months, almost 7. My xh did have ow. He is now living with a DIFFERENT gf, and planning to get married in Aug. He is VERY angry and refuses to talk with me. He speaks to our son every day, but doesnt ask about me. I am having a hard time dealing with his anger. That, I have to say, is/was very hard for me. He left me but HE is the one that is the angriest. We did speak some until the gf moved in.
I know its heartbreaking. It seems like a bad dream. This is a loooonng road and you have to take one day at a time. If you want to wait this out, that is great, but dont sit around, like I did at first, and watch the clock. It will drive you crazy. They are NOT the same people.
I will check back in later. I am here and I TOTALLY know what you are going thru, as does everyone else here. Please feel free to ask me anything. I asked a billion of questions and still do. You will sometimes get mixed opinions, but basically everyone says the same thing, just in a different way.
