Maybe it would help you to have closure if you understood the "whys" of the breakdown of the M.
Sandi I agree. That is what I am trying to do, that is why I talk so much about the past and our marriage. That is also why I was wondering, at one point, if it was MLC. He said so much that is "script". Just because he wanted a divorce so soon doesnt mean he HAS TO BE a WAS. Right? (You dont have to answer that if you dont want to, I dont want to drag that subject up again.) Sometimes things cross my mind and I have to wonder what in the world was he thinking. I dont spend my day consumed by him, I just do that on here.lol When we were sep. but still living together, I said to him one day, "I guess I will go out and try to find me a place to live", he replied, "Do you care to look for me a place too? and then said quickly, NO I am sorry, I have no right to ask you to do that. I was thinking what?????? He was talking to me like a little boy, so pitiful, wanting ME (like his mother) to find him a home. Enough about my xh. I have another question and need your opinion. (or anybody reading this).
There is a guy that I would love to go out to dinner with. Nothing but dinner and talk. He has been working in the same store with me during our remodel. Someone told him I was interested and shortly after he walked by and spoke to me. Tonight he walked by and I said something to him and he stopped and we talked for a bit. I only met him a couple days ago, but I feel so comfortable talking to him and he is always so nice. Well tonight after work I got brave. I wont see him for a couple days probably so I decided that I would give him my number. I pulled him aside by hisself and told him that this was the first time "ever" that I had been this forward. I told him that I had heard that he had just went through a divorce and I also had. I said to him, here is my number in case you want to talk. He said that it had been a hard divorce and he hadnt dated in a year, and it got lonely. I told him I havent either and I know what you mean about being lonely. He talked a bit more about his divorce and so forth. He said to be honest, I am having trouble with trust. I told him it didnt have to be a date and we could just go out to dinner and talk. He took my number and said thank you and I appreciate it. Then he said well I better get back to work. My question is: Should I have approached him in the first place? Do you think it was his nice way of saying "I am not interested"?
