Minkerman's story was great to read. Did me a lot of good. As I read the beginning, I was thinking, "this is going great, but he's calling too much, sharing too much, etc." and sure enough he later came to the same conclusions. DBing works.
My wife has gone completely dark since reacting so emotionally to my short, sincere ann'y note (not even responding to my email today telling her my cousin passed away). Just as Michele says to expect after a meaningful connection. That's what I've been reacting today and I now realize that while it may be a good sign, may be a bad sign, I don't know but it is evidence of DBing being "right" and I am on the right track, albeit temporarily painful again.
I will wait 48 hours. I am waffling, so, no to these ideas for now.
I may try one of my ideas or suggest a No-R-Discussion meeting, coffee, hike, whatever...but not until she comes back out again and contacts me.
Your post, Minkerman, and continued reading of Learned Optimism (an eye-opener) has made my (so far sleepless) night.
Hugs back to you, friend. Thanks again
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
