If you can't get free c for your kids, get it from your wife. She is supposed to be paying you money or at least something for the kids and there is NO reason for you not to get it when the kids clearly need it.
When you start up again with the "and I just wonder when W said blah blah blah..." you are sliding down your slope to HELL - AGAIN and need to keep moving out of that pit. Keep moving the way you were a few days ago. OTherswise you drag this crap out so much more than it needs to be. Who the heck cares WHEN she said whatever she said? What diff does it make? NONE! She has been done a long time.
As someone posted here, it is NOT ABOUT YOU now. It is all about the kids so reassure THEM that you are always going to be their daddy and don't presume you won't ever date another woman again. I think you might remarry before your w b/c you are needier and I just would not be too hasty in making promises you cannot keep to your d's.
Instead, promise what you KNOW you can do. Which is to reassure them that you love them and they will ALWAYS be your girls, and you will always be there for them and Kevin, you need to reassure them.
For too long, it has been the other way around. You cling to THEM for words of comfort, and "they" disappoint you when they tell you what w is doing or saying...That is such a burden to them. Don't do that Kevin. it is not fair to them. You are the grown up and they are the children. Protect THEM.
Get your L, see if he/she knows a good c for kids. I suspect your w will have to pay for the c for now at least, with a legally enforcing document of course, so by going to see a L, you can make that happen.
Who knows? Maybe the wife will start respecting you for setting a boundary for the girls and enforcing it... I know you have had so much fear of angering her that you have sacrificed things on behalf of your d's to appease your w, or b/c you thought it would appease her....but I sure don't see how it can harm your R with your w to stand up for your d's and get them some help.
Even if it did tick her off, I'd say "so what?" Do right by your girls, Kevin. Please Do right by THEM.
J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
