Here's a link for a guy, minkerman, who kept his focus and stayed real. If you're interested you can follow his trail from devastation to renewing his marriage with the love of his life.
His wife left, not for another man, but because the relationship was no longer right. He's a good person to learn from.
*hugs*
As far as the thoughts rattling in your brain.. I always go to my mantra..
If it seems right, the answer is yes. If it feels wrong, the answer is no. If I waffle or can't decide, the answer is no.
Additionally.. the 48 hour rule is helpful.. if it's a good idea now, it will still be a good one in 48 hours.
And.. I'm a great believer in listening to the inner voice.. not the hyper yikes defensive fearful one.. but the voice that brings calm.
