My wife of 8.5 years told me at the end of March that she was done,was not in love with me and did not want to try therapy. I found the DR book about 4 weeks after the bomb. My question is,has anyone ever brought their WAS around by standing up for yourself and taking everythinf that is owed to you in the divorce settlement? We have two beautifull little girls. I was mister mom to the youngest(21 month old)for the first 6 months of her life. My wife made almost 4 times more money that I did in 2008 and she really does not want to pay me child support. I have finally come to the point that I dont care if my wife can afford it or not but that I have to do what is best for my kids.
I'm not sure if anyone has brought their spouse around by doing what you have mentioned but you should still do it, doing so means that you respect yourself, she is used to getting her way, wanting things to be done quickly, quicker for her means less time for you to analyze the situation and find out how much she owes which sounds considerable if you she makes 4 times as much as you do.
Tell her you will be pursuing whatever child support & alimony is applicable in your situation. If she plays the man/woman game where a man shouldn't seek support from his wife, etc. You tell her that it's 2009, men & women are equal and unfortunately there are prices to pay for these decisions.
Stand your ground, don't be an ass about it but just let her know that you won't be bullied into making a quick decision to benefit her. If she wants the divorce that badly, she will have deal with the consequences of the divorce and a loss of money is a huge consequence of divorce.
