I have arrived at the cottage and finally got on my pc - had to watch Bachelor first - LOL! I used to watch it long before I got up the nerve to actually date. It gave me hope and some idea of what it was all about. Like many of you - I was married a LONG time. 25 years. wow!
Wonder - I think you're responding to Hopeful2 and your advice is good. We can't really change our lives overnight but just getting through it all is a giant leap. Then we have to take small steps forward and define our goals as we go.
I have to tell you all that I really wanted someone new in my life. I had not really dated much at all in high school since I started dating Chuck (yes, Donna - its the name) at age 15. I wanted to know I could be attractive to someone else. My self esteem had hit rock bottom. So I made a serious effort to go for it. I was VERY choosy, though and was quite clear on who I would or wouldn't go out with. It seems to have worked well for me. I'm a "business" woman.
But yes - it still hurts. It really changes us and our kids forever. And there is nothing we can do about that. But how we handle the rest of our lives is more important. We can't beat up ourselves for what went on - especially since most of it was not in our control.
Interesting thing happened tonight. Chuck's niece contacted me on Facebook and asked to be my friend. One of his other nieces had done this a couple of months back. I have not seen them since we split and they were fairly young. I did add them and tonight I checked their friends out. Interesting - they do not have him or maggot on their friend list. I guess some of those Christmas parties, birthday parties they attended at my house when they were little must have made an impression on them and they're coming back to me. Hmmm...
And I have to say that Josh and I once again had a wonderful time together. It just seems to get better and better. And we get closer and closer. It is comfortable. I will not see him for the next week and a half. He has to stay in Halifax for work this w/e but I just learned that my sis and her 3 kids have accepted my invitation to spend the w/e here. (does anyone remember "Leenie" from the bb?) The kids loved it here so much last time and I know it will be a busy but rewarding w/e all around. I'm so glad they're coming. Then Josh is going to try to take about 10 days off work to spend with me here. YIPPEE!
