You make me think of a little of what my mother went through when my dad passed away. When others would mention her going out with a man for dinner or something like that.....she would be highly insulted! She kept talking to me about how upsetting it was to her. I finally realized what it was and I told her that she still "felt married" to my dad and it was as if people were suggesting that she be unfaithful. She looked so pitiful for a minute and then said, "yes, I think you're right". I felt sad for her b/c the reality of him not coming back hit.....again.
You will be "hit" several times by the reality of your H not coming back, but you "must" move forward and not feel guilty. I know that you know it's true. These old emotions are bad company at times, aren't they? I'm so glad that you are coming here to discuss how you feel and don't try to feel that you must be a mountain of strength whenever you post. That is one of the reasons for this board. We are all here to help each other.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
