D1 was doing well this morning. She had stank up her diaper pretty good, so I got to change that for her. I thought she said "I love you" this morning or at least was trying to. She knew when it was time for me to go because she held tight against me and the daycare worker had to eventually just pull her away which led to her crying and reaching for me.
I've been working on my GAL stuff a bit... took an impromptu vacation for some sightseeing. Have been going out and just having fun in the evenings.
Nothing as of now on the deposition. I met another BPD individual who has been very good about sharing her own battle with the disorder and validating my experiences when I told her the story of what I've been going through.
No I'm not going to date her.
It has been helpful to have some insight from someone who had similar occurrences in their own lives to understand the mindset however.
I get D1 tomorrow, which should be entertaining.
Trial: 16:21:21:30
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I picked up D1 this morning. MIL met me at the door, D1 was excited to see me. I went inside for a few minutes. W looked a bit subdued and didn't really speak much. MIL and I chatted about S7/S8 and she told me her mother was in the hospital. I asked how she was, etc. and I'm almost convinced that W hasn't told her mother anything about the psychological evaluation, because it hasn't come up at all.
I took D1 to the mall, to a bookstore, and then to visit some family I have in the area. She had a fun time, and fell asleep on the way back.
W/MIL arrived at the usual time. W reached out her arms for D1 - but D1 buried her head in my shoulder and held me tighter. Eventually W just pulled her away. That seems sort of odd for a baby not to want to go back to its mother immediately... but then again I have been spending a lot of time with her in the mornings, etc. so dunno. Could be the BPD stuff or an unpleasant environment at MIL's home... seems like OM was next door all day, and MIL made W go with her places instead of getting to see OM so that may have explained her foul mood.
In any event... I expect W to skip the deposition date. I then want my L to hold steady for the trial date. I think I have the potential for things to end right now. I imagine the judge won't be pleased with 3 court orders violated at that point.
Trial: 15:11:50:00
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
D1 was doing well this morning. She kept throwing fits because she wanted two bottles instead of a baby doll and a bottle like all the other girls were playing with. She latched onto me and screamed for me when the daycare worker was getting her for me to leave.
Well, W finally responded to her interrogatories and we are having deposition tomorrow.
Notes:
When asked about the A prior to our separation W answered "I don't understand the question." She did however answer that she had sexual relations post-separation with OM but that she didn't remember date or place.
She accused me of "repeatedly" calling her "fat" which has "taken an emotional toll" on her self esteem.
She accused me of putting out ads for threesomes, meeting women for threesomes, and "threatening" to bring them home.
She accused me of having deviant sexual habits and forcing her to have anal sex and raping her. No details, dates, etc.
She accused me of being associated with people who smoked marijuana on a regular basis and that I admitted to being addicted to marijuana and doing drugs on many occasions.
So... looks like the BPD factor has kicked in. Pretty creative thus far... but I've already prepped my attorney with questions/information to call her credibility into question since I can't stop her from lying.
What a trainwreck...
Trial: 13:17:18:00
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I think we were smarter in that we didn't tell them what we have waiting on them. We just made a short list of necessary requirements.
I created a list of 300 pointed questions plus 33 supplemental questions based on her accusations specifically tailored for W. I'm glad to see they will come in handy.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Pray for me today guys... deposition will hopefully shed some light for the lawyers and destabilize the false allegations they decided to throw up two weeks before trial.
There are other things she's accused me of that took place prior to our M... and conduct she is accusing me of that OM actually does...
I just hope it goes well... D1 deserves better than this.
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
- Psalm 19:14
Trial: 13:00:45:00
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Lord, we pray for Your will to be done in DC's family. For Your divine protection for his daughter, and for Your wisdom and discernment for DC. We also pray that DC will find favor with the court, and that the truth of the situation will come out, and that the deceit of the enemy's camp will be turned in against them.
