My story starts five years ago when I originally posted here. Different username. He read my old posts. My H and I separated due to several issues on his part with the intent to work on personal things for awhile. H sees this as his opportunity to date ow. One month into separation, he's having full blown affair. Long story, short. We can't make it financially and he has to move back. Continues seeing OW for several months until I call her and fill her in(we're still ML, he says he wants to work things out, etc). She drops him like a rock. Over the next several years, he alternates working it out with me to I'm leaving. At times he was very cruel, insisting he never loved me. Meantime, I do my best to DB and not engage the madness which leaves me lonely but maintaining my sanity.
Fast forward to six months ago. We have been in the habit of taking our lunch time together at home. He comes home at lunch, picks a fight and says he's leaving. Over the weekend, we decide he won't leave until after the holidays since they're close. I really don't care at this point. I'll file if he leaves. Holidays come and go. He doesn't leave. After V-day, I have to talk about it. He says he doesn't want to go. He tells me he loves me for the first time in 5 years. To tell you the truth, I don't know what to think at this point. But things are much better, so I go with it.
Then, I discover he's been texting a woman from work. It ramped up from a few times a week to several times a day. Several weekends I was gone, they texted all day long. I confront him about this since it's a sore point from the affair. He defends it, says she's a lesbian. He says he'll stop if it bothers me. Of course it does, so I ask him to stop and of course, he doesn't. After a few more weeks, I confront him again. He does stop at least for a few weeks. I've recently discovered that he doing it again. Not like before, right now it's just here and there. One day all day, then nothing for a week. I haven't said anything.
So now what? Am I making too much out of this? Do I just watch awhile and see what happens? He's still acting like nothing's wrong with us and he seems happy. But in my gut, I'm just sick. It feels all too familiar. I'd love some feedback.
