Your letter got through to your wife, stirring her emotions. What I see is a woman responding, explaining her reality and even some of her flaws. Perhaps you should write a short story of "The Little Kayak that Could".
You have no control over her actions but you shared what was right for you. Let it go, let her thoughts simmer as you move forward, being the best dad you are.
Here's a paraphrased story about divorce and a parent's love which I found only once and struggle to remember correctly.
His sons were upset over the divorce and afraid of losing the security of their parents love. The father aware of their concerns had the boys scour the yard for twigs. The dad bound the twigs securely with twine and showed it to the kids. He then took his strong hands and only with great effort slowly broke it apart. The children watched and wondered. "This is what happened with the love between your mother and me. We loved each other very much but it very slowly broke apart."
The father then had the boys gather branches. When they deposited all they found in front of him, the dad once again bound them tightly and held it up before his boys. He repeated the same motions as before, trying to rend the branches apart. No matter how hard he tried, it stayed secure. "This is the love I have for you. Nothing can change the love I feel."
In doing so, the father reassured his sons of the power and strength of unconditional love.
*hugs*
PS.. I have no clue what to do with my skill as a writer.
