@AlexEN: "Deeds." Indeed. Yes, telling the difference between a True and False deed is key. As Schnarch says: You don't have to believe it until you experience it.
But a panicky WAS could "come home" in a tizzy, afraid after being confronted by the real world s/he is creating. An action, yes. A (re)action, to be sure. But the action WAS would have chosen in her/his right mind? Maybe not. Maybe gut reaction. Maybe instinctive need to snuggle up to mama's breast and be calmed.
But less trustworthy, all else equal, than a Deed.
"I acknowledge what I did was wrong. I see now the error of my ways. I wasn't willing to do the Work."
Words.
"I acknowledge what I did was wrong. I see now the error of my ways. I wasn't willing to do the Work. I have started IC and have scheduled a sitter so we can go to Retrouvaille next month."
Deeds.
This, too, we know from consuming DB/DR. We are admonished not to talk about our changes, not to advertise them, not to call WAS's attention to them.
