I made the unfortunate discovery of a letter from my DH's XOW, imploring him to finally live for himself and follow his heart. She went on to explain that he'd taken care of us his entire life, thus those who truly love him would be happy for him. <gag>
She was as nutty as he was! True Luvvvvvv. Right.
He visibly shudders when aspects of his life a few years ago, when she was in it, arise.
It bothers me when careless writers romanticize and perpetuate myths and speculation. Hope you're doin' well kiddo, I'm catching back up with "everyone" a little at a time.
