Opps, never mind Sally. I see that you did start a thread in "I'm Thinking About Leaving". After reading that thread, I would have to agree that you should get out of this marriage - you have not been together long enough and it sounds like he hid a lot from you.
You should consult with a lawyer who will advise the best plan for you. In my case, I handed the divorce papers to my W instead of serving, but you may be rightfully more fearful of your H.
