Mojo. The life force. The essence.

[Gardener]

O'dog,

But I have no idea what the role is during separation. What is "to try" when sep'd?

But how or when do we work on the R when it's already been declared dead? When we don't make small talk anymore. When we've been told not to pursue. Not to ask questions. When we're supposed to work on our own life.

But what am I missing? How do we open it back up again to begin the work?

Sorry to be chiming in with no answer, just to say this is exactly what I struggle with now with a WAW who feels it all withered, doesn't want to work on it ("just leave me alone") and no arguing, no animosity, no nothing except a weary "fait accompli" attitude on her part (I think; I'm mind-reading, here).

Anyway, fwiw, my questions exactly...