I was very clear about my role right up to the day I moved out. And it showed. We were getting closer. But I have no idea what the role is during separation. What is "to try" when sep'd?
I've got it that DB is about making a better me no matter what happens. I've changed a lot of things in myself, got more active, got a life, and W noticed it and mentioned it on several occasions. In fact before I moved out she even said "You've changed so much and we could call this off. But I'm afraid things would go back to the way they were."
But how or when do we work on the R when it's already been declared dead? When we don't make small talk anymore. When we've been told not to pursue. Not to ask questions. When we're supposed to work on our own life.
I show my "friendiness" when she's around. And I know I'm being watched as Coach says.
But what am I missing? How do we open it back up again to begin the work?
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
