Just be prepared for the roller coaster ride. Even when you are doing what is working, at some point that is not going to work, may just be momentarily, but be prepared to change your strategy. My sitch is quite similar to yours, and I am about three weeks into the DB'ing. And its not a day by day deal, it's hour by hour. She will tell me one minute what she needs from me, and the next minute tell me that I am pushing her away by doing what she just said she needs.
