Any suggestions for how I discuss this with him? By the way, so far everyone who's responded so far (2 people)seems to think I shouldn't talk to her about it. We have plans to do something this weekend. My friends however (one of them a mutual friend) say I should share my concerns with her. I'm so confused!
M,
What would be your GOAL for such a conversation with her? What would you hope to accomplish?
Either this woman is having an inappropriate relationship with your husband, or she isn't. If she isn't, then such a confrontation will only make you look foolish and paranoid, and perhaps hurt your friendship with her. If she IS, she will lie about it, and everything that flows from her lips to you will be filled with deceit and tainted by her own agenda. Worse yet, you will USE at least some of the information to frame YOUR decision-making regarding your marriage.
