To me it sounds alot like my sitch although I don't know all the details just skimming through your thread.
When I was seeing some progress in my h, I stepped back and watched. I didn't say anything to him and I let him come to me. I had a life and kept busy,like you.
I wouldn't change anything right now IMHO.
You sound like you are doing well with the whole sitch. I know how hard it is to just sit back, keep your mouth shut and your opinions to yourself. I had a really hard time with that. I hated being the nice person while I was getting walked all over by my h. He had the ow and seemed like he was really happy. I was trying to fine me again! That is what is so important. We tend to loose ourselves in our M.
