What's it really all about?

[steady]

Alex, you are right. People will continue to play out their patterns until they change. Those patterns are usually passed onto their children unless their is someone in their lives to counterbalance it.

I have the same issues with my W. She abuses alcohol, I used to, we both grew up in alcoholic households...my W will pass that on to our children, it's up to me to counterbalance that with an model of life without alcohol. I hope to break that cycle so my children will not have to live such a life.