I can't move. I was born and raised here. My family, kids, etc. are here. And, I love my job! He's the transplant. I know this relationship is toxic and I believe he is a narrcissist. I don't think he's capable of loving from the heart, only from the lower extrimities. I know I need to break free, but I can't. I mean I really and truly can't seem to do it. I can go for days without contact, but then I become physically sick. I have left several messages for him this morning to call me to see if he felt better this morning. Of course he hasn't returned my calls and I know the next time I call (which will be at lunch time), he'll tell me that I'm stressing him and that he need to be left alone for a few days. Completely the opposite of what he told me last week. "We need to spend as much time together as possible, we need to reconnect". I live in such confusion with him.
He has a lot on his plate right now and because I've been there, I know how overwhelmed he feels right now. He told me that I cannot be his priority and that our relationship is too much work. (I think I've said that already). What should I do? If I go on with my life and make plans, he gets mad that I'm not available. If I sit around and wait for him to call, it may or may not happen and I've completely waisted a day. We had a WONDERFUL week together so this new attitude that came out of nowhere, has really set me back. What happened in a few hours? From being sweet and kind, to being everything that he feels overwhelmed with is my fault. I really don't get this. Do you think he's emotionally involved with another woman. These are some of the characteristics of my XH.
