CoNenn's been changed to Xabian just so you're not all confused. Just like it better.
The Wife. Tired? Not so much, maybe resigned and accepting is a better term. My marriage has been totally one way. Everyone knows it, even my wife.
I've been implementing DB for years....for YEARS! and it hasn't changed things. I've never forgotten the lessons. I still have the book. I will read it again and look into those ideas you all have suggested.
Other men possible you say? I know not on a physical level. I can read my wife like a book. She wears guild on her sleeve when she hides something. I'm sure on that. However, there are a few men she works with (at her work) she thinks are funny and nice etc, and perhaps she sees alternatives and it brings her to question. I suppose if you were in a state of sadness to begin with it could make your heart and mind wander. Perhaps this is a factor., but it may be a side-effect.
Smileys, very eloquent post, thank you. Your thoughts are mine it seems. At what point do you throw in the towel or get another indeed? Eight years + of lovelessness wears hard on a person. I fight for my kids.
Just wanted to clarify that when my wife said she wanted 'space' last week i interpreted it to be more independence (her lack of was perceived and i told her so) and no physical or emotional transaction. I will comply only because to do is to detach. Its not a difficult thing for me to do as i felt it was being done. It was more for my wifes frame of mind that she know this was our 'deal'. She has been outwardly happier since then go figure and i wonder this time if she is insulating herself for whats to come. I have moved beyond worrying about it and will do things for myself and the kids.
