I follow your thread too! It's hard keeping up around here isn't it?
I actually took the plunge and told H what I had been thinking. That I wanted to take the ring off because it was a symbol of taking him for granted. He didn't understand at first and the kids were around so we couldn't get into a deep conversation.
Later he asked me what I meant, I said I just felt like sometimes being married seemed like a chore, like cleaning the house and paying the bills and looking after the kids. I reminded him that when we ML the other night he called me "girlfriend" and that I want to feel like we are boyfriend and girlfriend. That we are here because we want to be not because we have to be.
I think he understood. He understood that it wasn't a negative gesture, that it was a symbol of trying harder. I put it back on though the next day - LOL.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
