Okay, I am unashamedly bumping this up to get some feedback on my note to wife on Friday and her vm and subsequent response(s) Saturday (wedding anniversary). I plan to just pull back to DBbusiness-as-usual without reading into this.

Except I do have to email her today to inform her about the passing of a cousin of mine. If she wishes to go to service/funeral she can ask. I'll wing it from there.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac