If I had incontrovertible proof that she was carrying on a PA, I would threaten the divorce. I don't know what good it would do, however, she still has not mentioned divorce directly. I will think about the not waiting thing. She knows I don't want to live separate lives in the same house, but I never said that by date "X" I will have to change things permanently. I will add "NOT just friends" to my reading list. We have a single bank account, no other credit cards or anything since the bankruptcy. She has always done the bills, so she pays the cell bill, but it comes out of the joint account. I have tried numerous times to either share or take over the bills, but she'll have none of it. I do see the bills, so it's not that she is hiding anything, it's just a control thing for her, I guess. Thanks again Puppy. If through some miracle my marriage is saved, it will be through your assistance.
PS. I printed out the "What I Have Learned About Detatching" post and keep it with me.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
