Today is my birthday (38 now) and I didn't get a single "happy birthday" this morning...not that I was expecting sincerity from W, but atleast she could have told my two young ones.
Yep,similar thing with me. W baked a cake for the kids to give me. Kids did cards, but nothing from W - 1st time that had ever happened. No card, no gift and no ML. Thought it was odd at the time, but a couple of weeks later, she dropped the bomb. Pretty bad - just hang in there. She is not in her right mind.
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You see, I have been suffering for a long time in this relationship. I've been unhappy and sometimes I think that this situation is actually a blessing in disguise. It's painful for a family to break up, I know, but I truly wonder if it's in my best long term interest to be with someone else who can treat me like #1. I don't want to be selfish and not consider the kids, but I believe I'm fooling myself that there can be a "happily ever after" with this stranger called my W. Most of my energy is zapped...I'm getting very close to my breaking point.
I understand. This process has caused me to look very critically at my M, and I now know I was not happy either. That's why I am not going back to the old M. The new R will either be a much different one with my W of with someone else. The kids do make it hard, very hard. But, you have to play the cards you were dealt and do the best you can. God knows I understand.
I also understand about the PMA being removed by the M. I feel the same way. But, in the end, that was our fault, not our W's. Only we are responsible for our happiness. That's one of the issues my W is confused about. She thinks someone else might "make her happy." Only SHE can make her happy.
Hang in there and have a great vacation. Give youself a break from the M problems. You might find the strength to continue the fight.
