Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

[Orich]

Thank you for the encouragement.
Now, I have read that in order for the marriage to be healed, the person with the EA has to cut all communication with the OM, and must be transparent with emails and texts, etc. My wife will not agree to any of this. She maintains that the relationship is innocent and that she is still persuing a job with the movie production. Whether or not this is the truth, she is still not letting me see the texts, emails, etc. I guess technically we are separated in the same house (BTW, she is sleeping in the bed again) so, how can I demand that she stop communication with this guy? How can I set boundaries? I can't kick her out of the house. The only thing I can think of is scheduling things for me to do out of the house when I know she is going to one of the meetings, but I know that can't work forever, she will just reschedule eventually.
I am going to the gym 3 or 4 nights during the week, and still looking for friends to hang out with. Does going out to a movie with Dad or my brother count as GALing? What leverage do I have to use against her not agreeing to any boundaries I feel are appropriate?
Also, she still has not told her family about all of this yet.

Thanks again