Thanks Kat, I forget that I was dbing for so long and I was a LBS, its wierd sometimes, surreal, but I am having a lot of feelings that are surfacing and its harder to hide. He twice said this weekend whats wrong, you look upset? My face never lies! We're still very huggy and kissy though.
Had a hard weekend, MIL came to stay at his house (soon to be ours) and I spent the weekend there, as he wanted me there. I dont think she is thrilled we are back together, but I dont know if thats because she thinks I hurt him (?!) I am wrong for him and he shouldnt have gone 'back' or she's just nose out of joint to no longer have him all to herself (probably). She was very possessive of him, it was awful and I found her lack of acceptance of me upsetting. He said not to take it personally, she lacks tact and shows no interest in his life either, neverlone mine, but she doesnt respect his boundaries or my status in his life.
Yesterday, we woke up early, but when I came out the shower, he was naked in bed (covered up) looking not happy but "sorry, I couldnt stop her" look on his face whilst she was sat on the edge of the bed in a silky nightie with my discarded pants at her feet... my jaw dropped open with shock. She didnt even move then until he said, um Mum, I want to get up now... He's a 35 year old man and thats OUR bedroom. Wrong !!!!
She kept taking his other arm when we were walking, or hugging him, arms encircling waist and leaning her head on his shoulder (weird !!???) and talked about things she got for him to help him out, like the microwave and teatowels (all things she gave him WHEN HE LEFT ME !!! We had all that stuff of course, we lived together for 8 years). And when she said goodbye, she barely lifted her arms to me and dropped them again quickly. She kept saying she is coming again (maybe August !!??) but I dont want her to if she is going to be that rude to me. Does she not realise that will be MY house too then? Does she think its acceptable to be rude to me?? It was so cliched. And to think I thought she loved me and we were close. I spent hours and hours supporting her, talking to her, when her partner walked out and then her exH died.
Of course, I had to be very careful what I said to him and this is a MINEFIELD!! Grr.
