Thank you for your response. No offense taken here. All suggestions are welcome.
Quote: not in my house...it's lunchtime and there will be no distractions from family time." I turned off the TV and had W put down her stupid book. Did I say I was ticked off?
Hopeful...this is a 180 for me. I always permitted my kids to watch TV during meals while I read the newspaper...much to my wife's dismay. As soon as I made my statement today , my W and kids engaged as a family. It actually worked! It's what my W and kids needed. You see, my W disrespects me when I'm weak. When I confident and resolute, she begins to act like an adult and not a teenager. I didn't yell, but was firm.
Quote: Everytime you feel this way say to yourself - I have been busting my butt to be DIFFERENT for months (or however long it's been) to have ONE SENTENCE set me back! Everytime I want to be mad at H, I imagine this whiney little teenage voice saying - SEE, I TOLD YOU, YOU COULD NEVER CHANGE! And I REFUSE to let him CONTROL my mood. You are the strong one. WAS are not strong - that is why they would rather focus on a NEW LIFE. Reality is too hard. Stay strong & bridge the gap.
Great advice here Hopeful...I love it. The "you will never change" was thrown in my face after the D bomb. I believe she's starting to realize that I can and am. I am very determined to become an excellent individual.
Quote: Now think of WAS as a teenager...YOUR teenager. You don't love them any less because you realize they have to become the person they need to be & make these life discoveries on their own...detachment is unconditional love at it's best.
Hopeful...I love your analogy here. No one has ever put it this way with the teenager analogy.
Thank you for your post, LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
