Some sun with scattered showers

[haphazard]

Hi all,
I seem to have kicked off a real discussion here - LOL!

Hi LL: Thanks for stopping by! I guess both of us were in more of a down mood at the time you said that and when I quoted you. It's easy to look back and pick on the bad stuff when you feel your R is just CR&P. At the moment things with me and H are going OK again, your thread sounds pretty positive lately

it always baffles me when h and I spend a great evening together...I'm dressed extra nice...and nada! then seemingly out of no where when I'm grubby from playing with the kids all day or even in my cozy pj's does h suddenly get an idea.

I can relate to this one - LOL. H will come up behind me when I am washing the dishes and grab me and start canoodling! What's all that about - does he get turned on by soap suds or is it the rubber gloves
I think men are subtler than we give them credit for. When they see us dressed nice etc, even though they like it, in a marriage it is such a game of strategies and counter strategies they can't help thinking - what's she after. Whereas when you're in your grubby PJs or washing dishes they can just jump you knowing that is NOT what you were thinking of.


Shinybear:

I find no end to the irony that most of us wind up paired with a S who is on the opposite end of things when it comes to this issue

Do you think this is a polarisation thing. You know maybe the sex drive is only very slightly different to start but as the R goes along one person (usually LD) starts to feel the power they have over HD one and can use that? Consciously or unconsciously, then it becomes a habit. The HD one gets frustrated, needs it more etc. HD becomes a pursuer... and we all know where that leads.

I think you need to hang out more in grubby PJs doing unglamourous household chores Shiny! LOL

take care


Fran