is it safe to assume that when most of you got married...things were good? you were "in love" with eachother, you we're friends etc? ...
... I could accept his shortcommings because I could at least say to myself...he's honest, he dedicated, he's compassionate, he's loyal, he's ambitious, and he's a hard worker.
While my own situation is not identical to that, I knew when I first got together with H that the love was a decision on my part (yes right from the very beginning). Somehow although DB tells us that we should see love as a decision I wish at some point it had just been a feeling something I could look back on and think - yes we were there once we can be there again.
I feel I sold myself short when I married H. I had been hurt by previous break up. Hurt by stuff with my Dad too I guess and I just felt at that time I wasn't worthy of anything better.
sheesh! it took me long enough to come find you and here you are quoting me on your thread. Since you have pulled up a quote from one of my previous threads I'd like to take a minute to clarify it.
I met my h when I was 16 and he was 19..we were "in love" but he was different than any other guy I ever knew...we dated for a long long time before we got married and by the time we got married the "in love" feelings weren't completely there...well I suppose not like I imagine other couples who marry...let's see bil's toast started with him saying it's been 9 years...how many people date for 9 years before they get married???
re the current discussion going on here...the ole sex thang...
it always baffles me when h and I spend a great evening together...I'm dressed extra nice...and nada! then seemingly out of no where when I'm grubby from playing with the kids all day or even in my cozy pj's does h suddenly get an idea.
oh well I'll take it when I can get it and am learning not to expect it.
