Hopeful, don't worry about lulls in the conversation. People don't have to fill the quiet gaps with words. In fact, if you are just "trying" to fill in the gaps, it could be a irratation to him. Men don't like women to keep a constant flow of talk. If it gets too quiet, maybe he will talk.
About the MC.....in MHO, there are some good ones out there but they are hard to find. By that I mean so many are not pro-marriage, or they are not experienced enough to give the correct guidance. Again, IMHO, I don't know that C both of you together in the same session is a good idea. I would think it would be more produtive to do it separately. It often leads to arguments in the session with the MC and the example of the C pointing out your changes. If it were me, I would put my money into talking to one of the DR coaches instead of that MC. If you are not happy with that one, you may have to try another. I know many men are hard to get them to go to MC, so you may have to go alone. That's just my opinion.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
