LFH - haven't read your sitch, but wanted to offer a great 180 for you. When she talks about the cruise, you are going to have to use your imagination for this (put yourself in her shoes, think of the nice getaway you would be having & how you might be feeling), tell her how much fun you bet she is going to have. Detach & think of her as a friend that is telling you about a cruise they are going on. Wouldn't you be thinking - wow, you are going to have a great time! Now when you say these things - MEAN IT.
Typically when my H would be doing something fun for himself, deep down, I would be thinking YOU F'er. You should be spending time w/MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, w/your family... That's how you feel when you haven't detached. Once you do, you look at it from their point of view & are truly glad they are happy. Believe me, she'll notice a difference.
Me 36, Him 33 M 11yrs, T 15yrs S 8, D 7 ILYBINILWY - 1/09 H moves out 10/09 D to be final SOON I HOPE!
