"Why do men think they can ignore you all evening and then get it on when they come to bed?"
I think I have an answer; however, any men out there please correct me if I am wrong.
Women want sex if things have gone well during the day with their H, etc..
Men will do things that will make the day go well for their W if they have sex.
A bit of a generality but you get my point. So, one of us has to give in, so to speak.
I know in the past pre-bomb days when we ML, my H was much more attentive and happy the following day. Why I didn't put 2 and 2 together back then I don't know. I think alot of men get their stress out by ML. They may not verbalize as well as us women so being physical is their way.
My 2cents: ML and just be in the moment no matter what transpired that day, you should see your H meeting your needs more. Let me know!
nik
PS my sister and BIL have similar dynamics in their marriage as me and H. My sister is the controlling one, my BIL is laid back and quiet. They have been "happily" married for 14 yrs. What they have always done is ML whenever the other person wants to. They NEVER say no to each other so that must be the glue for them!
