Hmmm. So Puppy are you suggesting that I should tell him that I cannot continue in this manner with the hope that he eventually realises that he really belongs here with us? I guess my only fear is that it has taken all this time to develop a 'friendship' and my moving aside could close down all possibilities if he feels I am pressuring him. Does that make sense?
Chrissy
Yes, but it's not about HIM -- it's about YOU.
When you make it about them, it's pressure, and it's CONTROLLING. Ex.: "I forbid you to see OM."
When you make it about YOU, it's a BOUNDARY, and it's healthy. Ex.: "I cannot live in an open marriage."
