Yes Antlers. Can you look at what else is going on here too?
I may need to be peaceful from a distance. I don't like the butt slapping, the pleasant dates that he talks away as negative and dysfunctional, his expectations that I act as though I'm his wife even though he has a) articulated that he has or will be with other women because we are separated b) indicated to everyone around him that he is no longer with me and it is my fault.
And on and on. My head hurts.
What does that "gesture" actually look like in DB terms in my sitch?
Is it the letter I wrote?
Is it being kind but detached and unavailable?
Aaaargh...he just called. I didn't answer. Now what????
