mdoodles, there is a difference in your sitch and mine in that my H does not move in and out of our home. He has stayed away permanently although he has got me sucked back in along the way by the continual warm, warmer, back to cold approach. I wonder if you are at the stage of really having to draw a line in the sand and telling him that this coming back and forth has to stop especially for your son. It must be confusing for him.
