I really am trying to work on me and I think that I have made progress. Although I still believe that my wife is the source of most of our problems. But I do have to worry more about me than what she is thinking.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Made hotel arrangements for me and kids today. My wife usually does this kinda stuff so this is something new for me. She knows that the kids and I are going on vacation but she doesn't know that I have all the arrangements made. I can't wait to go.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
She might very well be the source of your problems, but can you control her or her actions? You can only control you and your reactions. You will have to be the one to change. It sucks, but it's true. Funny thing is, when you change sometimes you realize that they aren't really what you wanted or needed to begin with. Learn to live your life.
I hope you have a great time on your vacation. Enjoy the kids! Leave the BS at home. Focus on making some awesome memories!
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
You are absolutely right! The kids and I are going to party like it's 1999, er 2009.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Chances are that she is hoping you are missing some of the arrangements and W is thinking that "he is gonna realize just how much I really do". If you missed anything, W does not need to know.
Good point. I got the air flight and hotel. I'm trying to decide if I should get a car or use public transportation. I'll probably rent a car.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
I've been thinking alot about detaching. I know that I am not there yet but on some levels I really get it and on other levels I am miles away. But I get the concept and I think that is the first step. A work in progress.
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
Question though about detaching. If WAS is content with your detachment and never makes any steps one way or the other, do we ever approach them about relationship? Or is detachment the ultimate goal? What do we do after reaching detachment?
Me-47 WAW-42 D-16 S-14 M-22 yrs T-19 yrs ILYBNILWY-3 years ago. Full Story and original posts: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...066#Post1781066
