Thanks for your wise words K. I will try and look at it from that point of view. Thank her for watching my back or something before requesting that she asks first before doing something to "help" me. I'm afraid it smacked of her knowing best to me, like she wanted to be proved right above all else. She is my younger sister but she never acts that way - .
Still if I look at it from a positive angle before I talk to her then maybe we can keep the conversation that must be had on an even keel.

Thanks again

Fran


if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong