another newcomer - thread #2

[JKL2009]

I like the tone of that approach, but at this point we don't have a marriage. She wants out, has made that clear, and I am pretty sure her response would be along the lines of "I don't want to live in this marriage either."

She came home very early this morning, and said she didn't come home because she drank too much and it wasn't safe to drive. That is an acceptable reason, though that was not communicated last night. I told her that I want her to be safe as well but that a) I didn't think it was the right behavior for a 34 year old mother to be out drinking that much and b) that I have no desire to control you but given the circumstances it bothers me that she doesn't come home and it is unclear what she is up to. Of course she projected and did the usual stuff about how "she knew I would be mad and act like this."