I will second what antlers said.....don't go by what any friends or family say or advice. I know for sure that, for me, I am the only one willing to fight for my M....but, well, I have the most to lose. Everyone else just gets the "new start" and no more Uncertainty. Most people are very uncomfortable with uncertainty. THis is what makes the DBers so amazing! We know that the sitch with S is uncertain, but what we focus on is ourselves......the only thing that we can be certain about. My focusing on us is the only time we also don't feel anxiety.
At least that is the way I see it. For now, I have just decided to tell everyone that we are trying to work things out and we will reasses in a year's time. I just don't want anyone else's input. I am depending on this site and all of you.
I think you H is definately thinking about you. How can he NOT? Although he is running from you, he cannot run from himself for very long and not from his thoughts. I think the WAS are trying really hard not to..........but, its exhausting to actively NOT think of something. Try it. Try not thinking of ice cream.......if that is your love...........for a day....by the end of it, most of us will find ourselves at Baskin Robbins!
You are doing so well. I take so much inspiration and strenght from you. Keep PMA and remember that you have changed. I think we LBS will never be the same again. I, for one, will remember to NOT ignore myself. I thought letting myself go meant that I looked bad.........its not that..............its the state of mind where you are so comfortable, you just stop trying to see and live the possibilities in life.
Be good to yourself mnt_dreams and just like you relied on your own feelings while falling in love with H and deciding to marry H, you must rely only on yourself right now while fighting for your H and his mental/emotional stability and your R!
Lots of hugs this morning. I think you are amazing! Have a wonderful day!
