MY H had an affair beginning late 2005 and finally left our home and family two years ago. Initially it was very tense between us all and there was very limited contact between him and the children. He was very aggressive, demanding and selfish-definitely MLC. We have been through various stages-explosive outbursts, no contact and then even some positive conversations along the way. He does not want a divorce (although he has threatened this in anger at times)as he is never remarrying. He is equally adamant that he doesn't want our relationship. He is still with ow although does not live with her.
I have seen tiny glimpses of the man I married and I have hung on tightly to those images. I have worked hard to be a friend to him without having discussions or expectations of a future. I have focussed on words of affirmation after him saying that he was never good enough for me.
In recent months there has been further movement and he has been making considerable effort to reconnect with our children and now his parents. He will call me although it is usually related to the children or business. He is usually happy to help out when I ask and is inclined to call in when he drops the children back although these visits are usually fairly brief-10 mins or so.
I could type pages but I don't want this to be too daunting or boring for you! I am keen to get a point of view here.........Do I keep on doing what I have been doing (as obviously I have had some success, albeit very, very slow success) and remain incredibly patient or do I recognise that he is enjoying a friendship with me on his terms and just move away?
