Virginia as for the respect, I believe this has been happening for awhile. It is my own fault and I just hate to admit it. His dad was the one who had the bluff in. When xh displined son, he always come crying to me and I would talk to xh and talk him right out of the boundaries he had set. I mostly did this because I didnt agree with the cussing and yelling that was usually accompied by his punishment. If xh would have just punished him without the cussing and yelling, I think I may have looked at it differently. BUT I think I felt as thought xh was being too harsh on my son. My xh could have a heart of steel if he wanted to. He never lost a winks sleep over punishing our son or even when fighting with me. He could always go right to sleep. NOT ME. I think also that the respect he gives xh NOW is related to son thinking and worrying about xh "abanding him like he abandoned me". Son will NOT ask for anything from his dad. He will say to me this is our problem NOT dads, he does not live here. If we were starving, son would say dont bother dad with it. I think the fact that my son is afraid to speak his feeling is soooo sad.
AND the fishing story did not ruin my whole day. There was much more added to it that ruined it.
