I hope that you are feeling well and that you are having a good weekend.
I really need your advice and help so if you can please do post back. It is my birthday on Tuesday. I have organised to fly to London late Monday night to spend my birthday with one of my best friends who lives there with her family. I wanted to spend it with someone who really wants to see me and where I can be away from the sitch here and not reminded of my H etc. I am flying late Monday night and wanted to have dinner with my D7 and my Mum but my H usually has our D on Monday eve until 7.30. My Mum mentioned this to him yesterday, because I was at work, and he responded by saying:
* He is more than happy for our D to have dinner and in fact he is happy to pay for EVERYONES meal at my favourite restaurant and he is also very happy to come too, if I would like him to, for either dinner or even just a drink. * Has bought two small presents for our D to give me. * Has said that he will also be buying me a present from him.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.......
Do I accept especially keeping in mind the circumstances? If he was still angry or resentful (feelings and emotions still there) then would he agree to do this. Yet if he was indifferent would he bother buying me a present or paying for dinner.It hurts if it is fully indifference; hen he has truly moved on and has o feelings for me anymore?
I don't want to get my hopes up but I don't want to be walked over either. he is still with OW......
Its hard because if I could think of my perfect birthday dinner it would be at that restaurant, with my H, D and Mum. And if I accept then that's what I will have.
Except the underlying reality of our lives is radically different.
