There are many men who have been on this board that never thought they could drop the rope, but after they did, they felt free and the pressure and stress lifted. The main thing is to watch out for the traps she sets up for you to join them (the kids) for some activity. You may have to tell her that you won't be doing any more of that since she is wanting a legal S or a D b/c you think it give the kids false hope. Everytime the two of you come together, the kids will naturally think that their parents are getting together. Why wouldn't they?
The times the kids are not at your house is when you can have personal time for GAL. I think that will help you a lot. You have to get your mind off of your wife! The less you can see her....the better. Really, the only time you have to see her is if one of the kids are in ER. Arent't they old enough that they can be ready to go when she picks they up or you go get them and just wait in the car? Why does she have to get out to visit with you? Why don't you just stay in the car and the kids leave the house and get into your car? Avoid talking with wife. They can be ready for her and jump in when she comes. Eliminate her excuses of visiting. Stop the kids from being her shield. When a the ballgame, I would stand as far away from her as possible and if she comes up beside you all talkitive, just answer with a nod of your head of a grut....women hat grunts (lol) but say a little as you have to and find a reason to get away from her. That shows her you are involved in a life that does not include her! That should get her attention. If she calls your phone.....either let it go to voice mall or call her back later. Don't sit home waiting to see what's she going to do next. Get out of that house and GAL.
Talk to you later.
sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
