What's it really all about?

[AlexEN]

She is very involved in their stuff. Keeps them very busy. I just think it will happen when they are old enough to stand up to her and don't agree with her about something, and the pattern will repeat. But she also works out obsessively, takes French classes in the City (we live in 'burbs), is taking a math class now in prep for her program in the fall. Hey, I have my own FOO issues, but there is a control thing in her family; her mom controls her dad, tried to control her... and she just tolerates her mother now... There is no love... W is very controlling but projects that on others... So, unless W does serious introspection (which is not likely for an NPD), I can see the same thing happening with her and her children as happened with her mom and her...