Thanks Sandi for your thoughtful advice (as always!).
I agree with you. The cake eating must stop now. I totally see what you mean about me being the only real option to keep her company given her situation with the OM. What a strange situation! She is a master at using the kids as leverage to get to me, so I'll need to carefully consider how I'm going to handle that moving forward.
I seem to have come to a new place inside myself. I truly am dropping the rope and moving on, and not as some experiment to see how she reacts, but for real. For the first time I can see a future where I would choose to leave my W behind even if she wanted to return. I am not making that decision now, I can just see it as a possibility. Strangely, it feels good.
If it comes up between us, I may have to clarify to my W that we will not be "friends", although I will remain civil and even "friendly". And yes, you are right that it is tough on me when she is looking sexy, which is often, but even that isn't hitting me like it used to.
