WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

It was a good Sat with the boys.

I woke up a little down as all I could think about was that my wife was going to take the boys tomorrow so it will be 3 more days before I see them again. I shook it off as I didn't want that to get me down for my day with the boys.

We had breakfast and went to the park to play. It poured last nite so my 3 year old was disappointed that the baseball field was too muddy to play, but he didn't fuss. We all had a good time as they played on the climber and road their bikes.

When we got back for lunch, my wife called. She started saying how she was really not feeling well as her stomach was bothering her all nite. She said that she threw up five times last nite and hadn't been able to keep anything down. I teased her by saying it sounded like a really bad hangover. She said she wished it was that but she thinks it's a stomach bug. She went on and on about how awful she felt.

I listened and tried to be supportive/compassionate as I asked if there was anything that she needed or wanted (i.e. Ginger Ale). She thanked me for the offer but said that she thinks she's got everything. Then after a few more minutes of her going on and on of how awful she felt, when she paused to catch her breath, I asked if she wanted to talk to the boys. The boys heard me say that as I saw their eyes open wide after I said it. She didn't answer and just kept going on. After several more minutes, I could see my boys getting anxious as they thought that she didn't want to talk to them.

So I said told her that the boys wanted to talk to her and asked if she was feeling ok to do that. She said yes. The boys went on about how much fun they had and all the goings on over the past couple of days. Then she went on with them about how awful she felt. The boys said that they hoped she felt better and then hung up.

I did send her a text with a "get well hug" in it (I know many will say that it's pursuing, but I would have done the same if it was a friend that called saying she wasn't feeling well). I was surprised when she sent me back a text saying thank you. In the past, when I sent her an email/text reply that had some "affection/pursuing" in it, she didn't reply.

Around 8PM she sent me a text saying how horrible she still felt and had just tried to eat some rice (first thing all day). I had thought about calling her to see how she was doing, but decided to wait as it didn't seem like a question.

Around 10PM, I sent her a text saying that it sounded like she had a rough day and hope she felt better tomorrow. She text me back right away and as I was reading it, she called me. She went on and on about how aweful she felt today and how she couldn't do anything. She was starting to feel a little better but just enough to stand for a couple of minutes at a time.

Then she abruptly said that she had to call me right back.

When she called back, I asked if everything was ok. She told me her friend who's brother (42) was dying, had text her to let her know he had died today. She went on about how sad it was and how it really makes you think about things. I told her that it is amazing how many twists life throws at people. In the back of my mind though, I was wondering who this guy was that, on the day his brother died, while with his mother, texts her to let her know that he passed away. She kept talking about it and I got that the guy is married and is in his upper 40's and also talks to one of her girlfriends about his brother.

Anyway, she got back to how she was feeling and then started talking about just other stuff (i.e. work and a few shows that she watched today, etc.). After about 15 minutes, when I sensed the conversation was slowing, I ended the call by saying I hope she felt better and we could talk to tomorrow to see if she needed anything.

I do hope that she will want me to keep the kids another day. My boys had asked about that tonite after bath time - saying that if mommy wasn't feeling well, maybe we could get a bonus day together. I told them that we would have to see, but if that's what they wanted, they could always ask.

So another week goes by since my wife filed for divorce and moved out and I've lost my job.

I really need something good to come my way.....