It is ironic how the only two people my W says she trusts her life with- her H and her Dad- are the two people she is most on the outs with right now.
So, that shows you how mixed up she is.
I will have to review the part on women's guilt in those books. The part that got me was the downward spiral and how the woman will finally get to the place she cannot be satisfied in any R and that her feelings will become so numb that it's as if she died. Now, that scared the mess out of me and was very instumental in getting me turned around.
If your W cannot see herself in any material she reads, it sounds very bad. She may be too far gone.....but I don't know that. I do think the best thing for you and for the R would be to drop the rope b/c you need to move forward in life in order to survive and if anything sends a message to her....dropping the rope will. It will take time for even that to hit her, but I don't think anything else will be productive at this time. I only hope that she will come to her normal self before it is too late for her mental & emotional state.
Don't stop posting b/c you still need the support here. I'll check back later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
