What's it really all about?

[steady]

...I think things, as many posters have written about in recent days, will get particularly nasty, when she learns the same things I have heard.

When I was first told it gets nasty I thought to myself, nah, not between her and I. Boy was I wrong. Beware a cornered animal.

But, Sara, she doesn't seem to be asking herself these questions; it seems that she just believes it will all work itself out and that I (and our marriage) were really the cause of all of her unhappiness. With those in the rearview mirror, now that she has found herself, all will be right with the universe and the kids will be happy because she will be happy...

You just quoted word for word the attitude my W has adopted also. Wait till she figures out her 'fantasy' future isn't gonna go anywhere near what she is thinking. I thought about that today - nothing of what my W thought was going to take place actually did since she dropped the D bomb. Not one thing...lol. I'll wager high that as the future unfolds the picture won't look like anything she is imagining.